“We leave something of ourselves behind when we leave a place, we stay there, even though we go away. And there are things in us that we can find again only by going back there.”
― Pascal Mercier
We are all used to call a particular place home. Since the moment we come to life, if we are lucky enough, we all know one home – the place where we were brought up by our parents, grandparents or other relatives. As we grow up and we start moving around, from a city to another, from a country to another, even from a continent to another, we realise that the feeling of home starts commuting with us. Still, no matter where you are, there will always be one place that you will long for and be anxious to go back to.
For me, this place I am talking about is my parents’ house. Of course, the parents’ house – the house I grew up in and live in at the moment – is just the material side of what I call home. The entire concept of home is wider; it doesn’t only involve the family and the family house, it also involves the streets I wandered as a child, the places where I connected with people, the friends, the city. This is why, a part of me will always be here and every time I come back (or move back) I find it. But despite finding the missing part every time you go home, there are other situations that you may encounter.
Even if I moved back home for only 2 months, there are some things that I observed and I probably didn’t take into consideration before. On a funnier tone, these are:
- Living with your parents, again – Moving back home involves being with your parents most of the time. On the one hand, it is very comforting and homey, but on the other hand, even if they consider you an adult, they still see you like their little baby.
- Hanging out with your friends – Some friendships might have gone with the wind while you were away, others might have strengthened. Being back means seeing your friends more often and sometimes it feels like you never want to leave them again.
- Wandering around the city – Being abroad for a while helps you develop the ‘tourist vision’ – a concept I like to describe as being more aware of what surrounds you. After coming back, the hometown seems to be more beautiful, it kinda looks different, maybe more appealing. You get to see the city through your ‘tourist vision’.
- Looking for a job – It’s a given that you gotta get a job after you finish your studies, so you start looking. You might find something or you might just have to keep looking. Either way, you realise you are not yet prepared for the adult life.
- Craving for travel – Getting used to being abroad and taking care of your own business, plus the great enthusiasm of discovering the world, makes you constantly think of traveling and feeds your travel thirst.
There is probably much more you acknowledge after you come back home, but for me, at least, these situations are very current and recurring. It might have to do with becoming an adult, it might have to do with find the missing piece, it might even have to do with all of this or none of this. The only sure thing is that this situations occur and they make you think.
It’s always good to travel, but at the same time it’s always good to be home!
Until next time, open your eyes and your ears to what the world has to tell you!
By: Ioana-Alexandra Tache